Reconciliation - Hard to Do But Great Rewards -Part 4

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photo by mael-balland at unsplash

So our last discussion about reconciliation is that between parent and child. First, please know that God put you together. As the parent, your love for our child really is unconditional (at least as a believer) and whether we disapprove of a behavior or some situation in our child’s life, we love our child! As a child, you can’t help but love and want to feel love from your parent. There is a natural bond between the two.

Now, I do understand that the above can be tainted if one or both have a true mental illness. But otherwise, is the problem, situation or hurt really worth the estrangement?

Again, we must remember that we can only do our part. What is our part?

  1. Accept responsibility - even if you don’t feel you are in the wrong, somewhere, somehow you have played a part - maybe your part has just been being unwilling to forgive

  2. Apologize for your part in the matter - whatever part that is

  3. Forgive them - whether they ask for your forgiveness or not. Forgiveness restores your relationship with Christ and releases the bitter, hard feelings you have toward the other

  4. Live peaceably - this may be difficult when the other party doesn’t want to reconcile, but do your part

  5. Pray, pray, pray for this person - trust me when I tell you that God will work a miracle in your heart toward someone you’ve had unforgiveness toward and you consistently pray for them. You will start to see them as God sees you - a hopeless sinner except by His mercy and grace…

Let’s look at scripture.

Ephesians 6:1-4 says “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), 3 “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” 4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.”

The above verses don’t say “unless they do…” or “except when they…”.

Child you are to obey your parents so long as you are under their care and their direction does not violate God’s word. Regardless, of your age you are to honor your father and mother. That does not mean you have to be mistreated by them, but you can stand up with honor. You can choose to show respect even if you disagree.

Parents are not to drive their child to exasperation-don’t provoke them. Don’t push and prod to the point the child feels demoralized and broken or driven by anger. Instead, teach them the discipline and instruction of the Lord. Show and teach them what is right by God’s standard. Lovingly hold them accountable while they are under your care. Once they are out of your house, keep loving them even when you don’t agree with their actions.

Is this always easy? Of course not! Do we mess up? Yes, we do. - both parent and child. Is there forgiveness? YES, always from God when we repent and yes, there should be between parent and child if both are believers. And if only one of you are a believer, what better way to demonstrate the love of God to the lost one than by forgiving and living peaceably?

Reconciliation can be hard, but the rewards are great! I’m praying for you! If you find yourself in the midst of needing reconciliation, cry out to Jesus and follow Him down the road to reconciliation!

Reconciliation - Hard to Do But Great Rewards -Part 1

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Photo by Ben White on Unsplash

Another topic that was suggested on the blog survey was that of reconciliation. Wow. Now that’s a topic! Once you are estranged from someone, it is so hard to reconcile.

I would be remiss if I didn’t begin with the ultimate reconciliation. True forgiveness and reconciliation comes from Jesus Christ and unto Jesus Christ. Until we know Him through our personal reconciliation, we cannot fully forgive and reconcile with others.

So how do we do that you might ask.

  • First, we have to confess that we are sinners.

    • Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,”

  • Accept the free gift of eternal life.

    • Romans 6:23 “For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

  • Confess and believe that Jesus is Lord and that God raised Him from the dead.

    • Romans 10:9-10 “because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes and is justified, and with the mouth one confesses and is saved.”

  • Know for certain that you belong to Jesus.

    • Romans 10:13 “For everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.”

  • Get involved with a Biblical local church

    • Hebrews 10:25 “not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.“

  • Get a Bible and read it; study it. I recommend starting in the book of John.

    • John 14:26 But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, he will teach you all things and bring to your remembrance all that I have said to you.”

  • Follow Jesus - obey Him as He speaks to your through the Bible and the Holy Spirit

    • Matthew 16:24 “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me.”

Now that we have our own reconciliation with Jesus secure we can discuss reconciliation with others.

Next week we’ll discuss the Biblical view of reconciliation with others. Please leave comments or email me with your comments, if you’d like. I’d love to hear from you!

Living Out Your Faith One Day at a Time -Part 2

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Photo by Ben White

My Mother had this way about her that no matter what topic you may be discussing, she would be talking about Jesus in no time. I was always amazed by her being able to turn every single subject into Jesus. Can I just say that she lived out her faith!

Not only did she live out her faith by talking about her Saviour, but she loved people with the love of her Saviour. She love people because Jesus loved them…and they knew that she loved them. She was also a prayer warrior. Even after she became homebound people would call her or stop by to see her so she could pray for them. And pray she did.

My point in sharing a little bit about my Mom is that no matter what season of life she was in, she lived out her faith one day at a time. That’s what we are all called to do. Living out your faith is more than just talking about Jesus, but that’s a great place to start!

 But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. Matthew 6:33 ESV

James 2:14-17 Put feet to your faith

James 5:16 Pray for others

1 Samuel 15:22 Be obedient

Malachi 3:10 Tithe

Matthew 28: 19-20 Be on mission

Hebrews 10:25 Be part of a local church

Whatever the season of life you are in, be faithful to our King in that season. If you’re a mom of young children, loving Jesus and serving Him often comes in the care and nurture of your family. As you love and serve your family you may have the privilege of serving other families along the way. Your children’s friends and their parents are watching you so be a godly example and share the gospel.

As that season of life changes to having adolescents and teens, serve there. Kids of that age need strong Biblical leadership more than ever and so do their friends.

The cycle continues as we move through various seasons of life. Keep your eyes open to opportunities and serve Jesus where you can. The best way to serve Him is by serving others.

For the Love of Doing It

Photo by Nathan Lemon

Photo by Nathan Lemon

What do you do for the love of doing it? Recently, I’ve been sewing. Nothing fancy and certainly nothing that requires a pattern, but sewing for the love of sewing.

I heard someone who quilts say that you start quilting because you want one and then you want to make quilts for your kids and then for your grand-kids and then for friends and then, well, just for the love of quilting. Many folks who quilt end up donating quilts to causes they support because they love sewing quilts so much they just have to keep at it.

So let me ask you again, what do you do for the love of doing it?

They say if your job is something you “love”, then it’s not like “working”. Not sure I’m on board with that one or not. What do you think?

Well, I mentioned earlier in this post that I love to sew. I love to read. I love to crochet. I love to work in the yard and see blooms from my labor (and from my husband’s labor). I just love doing a lot of things for the love of doing it.

When it comes to our faith, what do we do for the love of Jesus? I love helping others. I love being an encourager. I love seeing the light of life in someone’s eyes when they accept Jesus as their Savior. I love studying the Bible. I’m sure you love all these things, to.

34 Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world. 35 For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, 36 I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me.’ 37 Then the righteous will answer him, saying, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you drink? 38 And when did we see you a stranger and welcome you, or naked and clothe you? 39 And when did we see you sick or in prison and visit you?’ 40 And the King will answer them, ‘Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers,[f] you did it to me.’
— Matthew 25: 34-40 ESV

I think when we love Jesus, we want to do good for others. After all, serving others is serving Jesus. How excited are you (am I) to tell someone the wonderful things Jesus has done for you (for me) in comparison to our latest project that we have “loved” doing?

So tell me, what good shall you do this day? I’m going to find someone to encourage!